HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGES

Couples should know that marriage or relationship is never meant to be rosy all the time.This is why you have to prepare to face any challenge that may arise in the form of conflict.Always bear in mind that when you experienced conflict in your marriage and overcome them,its makes your relationship wax stronger.You should not panic when you are having problem in your relationship.Instead, think of how to resolve them.The most important thing in a marriage is conflict management.This true because managing conflicts in your marriage can go a long way in the substanance of your relationship.There is no amonth of conflicts in a marriage that cannot be resolve.If only the couples can sit and sort their differences.It is very essential for the couples to try and bring that lovely honeymoon feelings.In other for you to bring back that delightful and romance and passion you shared when you were newlyweds,you must wholeheartedly prepare to do the followings.

(1)Find out the cause of your conflict. It is very hard to find a solution to a problem you did not know the cause.This is why it is necessary for couples who have conflict in their marriage to try and find the root of their conflict.You have to state the problem in clear terms.When couples have no idea of why they are fighting,their conflict often degenerates.So any time you feel the tention rising,make sure you state the problem clearly. This will make you to understand and resolve the problem faster.

(2)Think of the begining.One thing you need to do is to reflect on how it all started. Imagine how closed you were during your dating season.Think of the love you shared and its impact on your lives as youths.Think of the romatic words you exchanged and their effects.Think of the conflicts you have resolved in the past.Imagine how wonderful your honeymoon was.Think of your first month as couples and reconsidered you steps.

(3)Assume that what led to this conflict was not intentionally done by your spouse.Take it to be a mistake that your spouse is already regretting. This will free you from the dedious task of occupying your mind with the evil your spouse has committed.

(4)Communicate with your spouse.Learn to talk to your spouse. Talking in marriage brings couples closer.Talk about the problem and possible ways of solving it.Do not conceal any grudge in your mind as this will hurt you badly.Take into considerations your daily conversations.Funny enough, most couples forget to speak to each other.You need to talk about many things in your marriage.Talk about the kids,talk about work,talk about going out for picnic and lot of other things.

(5)Forgive or apologize to your spouse.If you are the persons hurt,prepare a forgiving heart.Nothing good actually comes from keeping a person in mind. This is why you most forgive your spouse no matter the gravity of the offence.If you are the one at fault,prepare to apologize to your spouse.Tell your spouse thatyou are very sorry and nothing will ever make you do that again.Forgiveness bring peace happiness to a marriage.

(6)Start a new honeymoon.I am not refering to going to expensive hotels or going outside your country to have another honeymoon. I actually mean that everyday in your marriage should be like your honeymoon.But if you have the means,going for another honeymoon won't be a bad idea.This is important as it keeps the relationship sailing in the right direction.

(7)Reaffirm your commitment.Marriage is all about commitment.One big commitment is the promise to maintain and exerts effort to maintain closeness in your relationship.Though it is not easy to avoid marital problems,if the couples are willing they will surely achieve that level of intimacy they once enjoyed when they were newlyweds.

(8)Commit your marriage into God's hand.God is the only one that can ensure a totally perfect relationship.This is why you must involve Him in your relationship.When God is involve in any relationship,the security of the existing love will be guarantee.
It is true that managing a marriage is not an easy task,with some level of commitment and effort,you can make your marriage works.