EIGHT REASONS WHY PARTNERS CHEAT AND HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING

The issue of partners cheating in marriages or relationships is no longer a news. This ugly trend has lasted for such a long time that it has gradually becomes something the society can’t help but painfully learn to accommodate. I keep on wondering everyday why a married woman or man will not stick to her/his spouse. Why won’t two young fellows who are into a relationship never consider it right to be faithful to one another. Instead they go about jumping from one bed to another, To make matters worse, most people have taken this ugly trend as a life style. While it is traditionally accepted for men to have multiple partners in some societies, it is morally wrong for a man to be unfaithful to his partner. How I wish they can sit down for once and ponder on the multiple emotional implications of their action. Cheating in a marriage or relationship can effect your partner psychologically. According to James Oki “my life has been affected negatively since I found out that my wife is a cheat”. Mr. James is not the only person passing through this traumatic situation. Sadly, the question on the lips of all the people in this condition is ‘why me’. This means they did not know why this fate befall them. This is why I have written this article to expose some of the key reasons why partners cheat and how to know if your partner is cheating. Following are the reasons why cheating is very prevalent in our today's society.

WHY THEY CHEAT
(1) LUST: when couples or dates come together as a result of lust, there is bound to be a problem. When love is not the bond that hold the partners together, the tendency to go out and look for the love that is currently inexistence in their present relationship will always come. My submission is that love has to be the foundation of any relationship that will be void of cheating.
(2) LACK OF COMMITMENT: Commitment in a relationship or marriage plays a very vital role in the sustenance of that relationship. Because most partners do not show total commitment in a marriage, they go outside their home to seek for pleasure. On the other hand, lack of commitment in young peoples relationships can result to one of the partners going out in search of a committed partner. You must wear the coat of commitment if you want your relationship to survive.
(3) LACK OF TRUST: Believe it or not, any relationship without trust hardly works well, be it marriage, business or a date. If your marriage or relationship must work, you must learn to trust your partner with all your heart. Don’t listen to what others are saying about your partner; over look them because you can’t really tell who is your enemy. They may come up with plans to make you cheat on your partner and subsequently destroy your relationship.
(4) UNSATISFIABLE SEXUAL URGE: A partner with huge sexual expectations will always cheat if the current partner is unable to satisfy him/her. This set of people can go to any length to achieve their sexual desire.” When I married my husband, he use to satisfy me sexually. But now that he is always complaining of tiredness, I have to go outside to satisfy myself”. This confession was made by a woman in the court of law. As a matter of fact, she sue for a divorce in other to marry her lover.
(5) PEER PRESURES: Inmaturity and indiscipline often make some people in relationships susceptible to peer pressures. Most people want to do what their peers are doing. This set of people won’t mind cheating if that is what their peers do-they want to belong any how.
(6) MATERIAL WANTS: Cheating in most marriages or relationships arises from the need to have all they want. Some girls believe they can have a good wardrobe and a very fat bank account by keeping multiple relationships. A girl once said that her reason for keeping three relationships was that she needed to get what she couldn’t get from one relationship. Most men also cheat on their wife simply because they other woman will present a link to their success.
(7) IGNORANCE: Knowledge they say is power, this is absolutely correct. You need to have adequate knowledge of the concept of relationship before diving into it, otherwise you will have your fingers and legs burnt. Most people never took time to study what makes up a good relationship, they refused to study while some relationship worked and others failed.
(8) FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: One of the reasons why people cheat in relationships is the fear of the unknown. They are afraid of what the end of their relationship will look like, hence they are forced by their mindset to keep another relationship so that they can fall back on it incase the main relationship fails.

HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING
I vehemently say here that it is most likely that your partner is cheating on you if he/she
• Gets angry at every slightest provocation.
• Barely call or mail you.
• Keeps unusual late nights.
• Goes to odd places with friends of the opposite sex.
• Intentionally refused to pick your calls or reply your mails.
• Always complain of tiredness when you demand for sex.
• Never complains incase of sex denial.
• Gives flimsy excuses why he/she will not go out with you.
• Unusually request you to call before you visit.
• Always feel uncomfortable when you go on a date.
• Queries you for picking his/her calls.
When you notice this signs, know that your partner is cheating on you.
I am passionately committed to serving you right.