ALRED ADLER.
We only regard those unions as real examples of love and real marriages in which a fixed and unalterable decision has been taken. If men or women contemplate an escape, they do not collect all their powers for the task. In none of the serious and important tasks of life do we arrange such a "getaway." We cannot love and be limited.
AMY BLOOM
Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.
ANN LANDERS
All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest--never vicious or cruel. Good battle is healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership
BARACK OBAMA
Most people who meet my wife quickly conclude that she is remarkable. They are right about this. She is smart, funny and thoroughly charming. Often, after hearing her speak at some function or working with her on a project, people will approach me and say something to the effect of, you know, I think the world of you, Barack, but your wife, wow!
BARACK OBAMA
My wife has been my closest friend, my closest advisor. And ... she's not somebody who looks to the limelight, or even is wild about me being in politics. And that's a good reality check on me. When I go home, she wants me to be a good father and a good husband. And everything else is secondary to that.
BILL COSBY
For two people in a marriage to live together day after day is unquestionably the one miracle the Vatican has overlooked.
BRUCE FISHER AND ROBERT ALBERTI
Many people marry for the wrong reasons, among them 1) to overcome loneliness, 2) to escape an unhappy parental home, 3) because they think that everyone is expected to marry, 4) because only "losers" who can't find someone to marry stay single, 5) out of a need to parent, or be parented by another person, 6) because they got pregnant, 7) because "we fell in love," ... and on goes the list.
FRANCIS BACON
He that hath a wife and children hath given hostages to fortune.
HANNAH ARENDT
The right to marry whoever one wishes is an elementary human right compared to which "the right to attend an integrated school, the right to sit where one pleases on a bus, the right to go into any hotel or recreation area or place of amusement, regardless of one's skin or color or race" are minor indeed. Even political rights, like the right to vote, and nearly all other rights enumerated in the Constitution, are secondary to the inalienable human rights to "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" proclaimed in the Declaration of Independence; and to this category the right to home and marriage unquestionably belongs. [Dissent, Winter 1959]
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Thursday, December 3, 2009
Saturday, November 7, 2009
HOW TO RESOLVE CONFLICTS IN MARRIAGES
Couples should know that marriage or relationship is never meant to be rosy all the time.This is why you have to prepare to face any challenge that may arise in the form of conflict.Always bear in mind that when you experienced conflict in your marriage and overcome them,its makes your relationship wax stronger.You should not panic when you are having problem in your relationship.Instead, think of how to resolve them.The most important thing in a marriage is conflict management.This true because managing conflicts in your marriage can go a long way in the substanance of your relationship.There is no amonth of conflicts in a marriage that cannot be resolve.If only the couples can sit and sort their differences.It is very essential for the couples to try and bring that lovely honeymoon feelings.In other for you to bring back that delightful and romance and passion you shared when you were newlyweds,you must wholeheartedly prepare to do the followings.
(1)Find out the cause of your conflict. It is very hard to find a solution to a problem you did not know the cause.This is why it is necessary for couples who have conflict in their marriage to try and find the root of their conflict.You have to state the problem in clear terms.When couples have no idea of why they are fighting,their conflict often degenerates.So any time you feel the tention rising,make sure you state the problem clearly. This will make you to understand and resolve the problem faster.
(2)Think of the begining.One thing you need to do is to reflect on how it all started. Imagine how closed you were during your dating season.Think of the love you shared and its impact on your lives as youths.Think of the romatic words you exchanged and their effects.Think of the conflicts you have resolved in the past.Imagine how wonderful your honeymoon was.Think of your first month as couples and reconsidered you steps.
(3)Assume that what led to this conflict was not intentionally done by your spouse.Take it to be a mistake that your spouse is already regretting. This will free you from the dedious task of occupying your mind with the evil your spouse has committed.
(4)Communicate with your spouse.Learn to talk to your spouse. Talking in marriage brings couples closer.Talk about the problem and possible ways of solving it.Do not conceal any grudge in your mind as this will hurt you badly.Take into considerations your daily conversations.Funny enough, most couples forget to speak to each other.You need to talk about many things in your marriage.Talk about the kids,talk about work,talk about going out for picnic and lot of other things.
(5)Forgive or apologize to your spouse.If you are the persons hurt,prepare a forgiving heart.Nothing good actually comes from keeping a person in mind. This is why you most forgive your spouse no matter the gravity of the offence.If you are the one at fault,prepare to apologize to your spouse.Tell your spouse thatyou are very sorry and nothing will ever make you do that again.Forgiveness bring peace happiness to a marriage.
(6)Start a new honeymoon.I am not refering to going to expensive hotels or going outside your country to have another honeymoon. I actually mean that everyday in your marriage should be like your honeymoon.But if you have the means,going for another honeymoon won't be a bad idea.This is important as it keeps the relationship sailing in the right direction.
(7)Reaffirm your commitment.Marriage is all about commitment.One big commitment is the promise to maintain and exerts effort to maintain closeness in your relationship.Though it is not easy to avoid marital problems,if the couples are willing they will surely achieve that level of intimacy they once enjoyed when they were newlyweds.
(8)Commit your marriage into God's hand.God is the only one that can ensure a totally perfect relationship.This is why you must involve Him in your relationship.When God is involve in any relationship,the security of the existing love will be guarantee.
It is true that managing a marriage is not an easy task,with some level of commitment and effort,you can make your marriage works.
(1)Find out the cause of your conflict. It is very hard to find a solution to a problem you did not know the cause.This is why it is necessary for couples who have conflict in their marriage to try and find the root of their conflict.You have to state the problem in clear terms.When couples have no idea of why they are fighting,their conflict often degenerates.So any time you feel the tention rising,make sure you state the problem clearly. This will make you to understand and resolve the problem faster.
(2)Think of the begining.One thing you need to do is to reflect on how it all started. Imagine how closed you were during your dating season.Think of the love you shared and its impact on your lives as youths.Think of the romatic words you exchanged and their effects.Think of the conflicts you have resolved in the past.Imagine how wonderful your honeymoon was.Think of your first month as couples and reconsidered you steps.
(3)Assume that what led to this conflict was not intentionally done by your spouse.Take it to be a mistake that your spouse is already regretting. This will free you from the dedious task of occupying your mind with the evil your spouse has committed.
(4)Communicate with your spouse.Learn to talk to your spouse. Talking in marriage brings couples closer.Talk about the problem and possible ways of solving it.Do not conceal any grudge in your mind as this will hurt you badly.Take into considerations your daily conversations.Funny enough, most couples forget to speak to each other.You need to talk about many things in your marriage.Talk about the kids,talk about work,talk about going out for picnic and lot of other things.
(5)Forgive or apologize to your spouse.If you are the persons hurt,prepare a forgiving heart.Nothing good actually comes from keeping a person in mind. This is why you most forgive your spouse no matter the gravity of the offence.If you are the one at fault,prepare to apologize to your spouse.Tell your spouse thatyou are very sorry and nothing will ever make you do that again.Forgiveness bring peace happiness to a marriage.
(6)Start a new honeymoon.I am not refering to going to expensive hotels or going outside your country to have another honeymoon. I actually mean that everyday in your marriage should be like your honeymoon.But if you have the means,going for another honeymoon won't be a bad idea.This is important as it keeps the relationship sailing in the right direction.
(7)Reaffirm your commitment.Marriage is all about commitment.One big commitment is the promise to maintain and exerts effort to maintain closeness in your relationship.Though it is not easy to avoid marital problems,if the couples are willing they will surely achieve that level of intimacy they once enjoyed when they were newlyweds.
(8)Commit your marriage into God's hand.God is the only one that can ensure a totally perfect relationship.This is why you must involve Him in your relationship.When God is involve in any relationship,the security of the existing love will be guarantee.
It is true that managing a marriage is not an easy task,with some level of commitment and effort,you can make your marriage works.
Friday, November 6, 2009
WHY SOME WOMEN COULD NOT GET MARRIED AND HOW TO AVOID BEING SINGLE FOR LIFE
Observations and investigations have revealed that a lot of women who are suppose to be in their husbands house are still swimming in the ocean of singleness. No sane mother/father will ever wish that their daughters should be single at a very ripe age of forty. But truth be told, there are thousands of women who did not get married before they eventually died at a very ripe age. Not that they don’t want to get married but they could not be married for obvious reasons. Sadly, most of them did not understand the reasons for their singleness. Some believe that the inability of most men to get married on time is responsible for this trend. But this is not and can never be true. Granted, the population census of some countries suggested that the population of men is slightly lower than that of the women, I don’t believe that this can totally account for the huge number of single ladies recorded worldwide. There is also this common belief that men often look the direction of beautiful women when it comes to marriage. Though there is an element of truth in this claim, I want to say that every woman is beautiful. A woman beauty depend on her personal assessment. Let me ask this, if it is true that men always go for beautiful women, how come some ugly women are married and their beautiful counterparts are still single?.
After a thorough study and investigations of some 'ripe singles', I can authoritatively state the followings as the main reasons why some women remain single even for life.
(1) NO SMILE SYNDROME: Besides the physical appearance of a person, one of those things that attract a man to a woman is the look on her face. Some girls find it very hard to smile. To them’ smiling is a million dollars worth task, that is why they find it hard to smile. If not what does it cost any body to put a smile on her face? It is free you know!. Not smiling is very bad as it gives a wrong impressions of your person. No matter how beautiful a girl will look, if she has no smile on her face she is most likely to repel men from her path.
(2) UNFRIENDLINESS: People who are not friendly, hardly make friends and the only way to get hooked up is to make good friends. Because some girls are hostile, unwelcoming and repelling, they find it difficult to find a life partner.
(3) SNUBBISHNESS: Most women are fond of snubbing men any time they are approached. For God sake why will you snub somebody who have interest in you?. Alright, it is true that you can not like everybody and there is no law that says you must relate with everybody. The truth is that there are millions of friendly ways of showing somebody that you really don’t have the interest. Learn to attend to every man politely irrespective of how he looks.
(4) SELLECTION: While it is not wrong to choose a man you want to marry, it is very wrong to turn down all the men that proposed to marry you for some over ambitious motives. No man is one 100% perfect and that is why you will never get your Mr. Perfect. For this reason you have to wait for more centuries before your Mr. Perfect may arrived. Tragically, you will no longer be alive at that time. That is if there is anyone like Mr. Perfect in the whole universe.
(5) MATERIAL EXPECTATIONS: All most ladies want is ‘already made’. They want to enter where it is already happening. They want to get married to men with luxury cars and expensive mansions. Why I am equally not against any woman getting married to a wealthy man, I want to let you know that very few men are rich. Now, if all women want to marry wealthy men and it is very obvious that rich men are rare, majority of the women have to wait for a very long time. They may even end up not getting married in the process of waiting for Mr. rich.
(6) LACK OF RESPECT: Most girls are very disrespectful; they talk when they are not to talk and say what they shouldn’t say. They equally do the wrong thing almost all the time. This is an attitude that real men detest with passion.
(7) DIRTINESS: Even the bible acknowledged that cleanliness is next to Godliness. This is very correct as no sane man will even dream of coming close to you when you cannot keep yourself clean. Some folks believed that a person who is clean on the outside will equally be clean inside, this is because you only brings out what you have inside.
Dear esteemed readers, if you can diligently follows the point enumerated in this article, I bet you that getting your dream husband will not be a problem.
I am passionately committed to serving you right.
After a thorough study and investigations of some 'ripe singles', I can authoritatively state the followings as the main reasons why some women remain single even for life.
(1) NO SMILE SYNDROME: Besides the physical appearance of a person, one of those things that attract a man to a woman is the look on her face. Some girls find it very hard to smile. To them’ smiling is a million dollars worth task, that is why they find it hard to smile. If not what does it cost any body to put a smile on her face? It is free you know!. Not smiling is very bad as it gives a wrong impressions of your person. No matter how beautiful a girl will look, if she has no smile on her face she is most likely to repel men from her path.
(2) UNFRIENDLINESS: People who are not friendly, hardly make friends and the only way to get hooked up is to make good friends. Because some girls are hostile, unwelcoming and repelling, they find it difficult to find a life partner.
(3) SNUBBISHNESS: Most women are fond of snubbing men any time they are approached. For God sake why will you snub somebody who have interest in you?. Alright, it is true that you can not like everybody and there is no law that says you must relate with everybody. The truth is that there are millions of friendly ways of showing somebody that you really don’t have the interest. Learn to attend to every man politely irrespective of how he looks.
(4) SELLECTION: While it is not wrong to choose a man you want to marry, it is very wrong to turn down all the men that proposed to marry you for some over ambitious motives. No man is one 100% perfect and that is why you will never get your Mr. Perfect. For this reason you have to wait for more centuries before your Mr. Perfect may arrived. Tragically, you will no longer be alive at that time. That is if there is anyone like Mr. Perfect in the whole universe.
(5) MATERIAL EXPECTATIONS: All most ladies want is ‘already made’. They want to enter where it is already happening. They want to get married to men with luxury cars and expensive mansions. Why I am equally not against any woman getting married to a wealthy man, I want to let you know that very few men are rich. Now, if all women want to marry wealthy men and it is very obvious that rich men are rare, majority of the women have to wait for a very long time. They may even end up not getting married in the process of waiting for Mr. rich.
(6) LACK OF RESPECT: Most girls are very disrespectful; they talk when they are not to talk and say what they shouldn’t say. They equally do the wrong thing almost all the time. This is an attitude that real men detest with passion.
(7) DIRTINESS: Even the bible acknowledged that cleanliness is next to Godliness. This is very correct as no sane man will even dream of coming close to you when you cannot keep yourself clean. Some folks believed that a person who is clean on the outside will equally be clean inside, this is because you only brings out what you have inside.
Dear esteemed readers, if you can diligently follows the point enumerated in this article, I bet you that getting your dream husband will not be a problem.
I am passionately committed to serving you right.
EIGHT REASONS WHY PARTNERS CHEAT AND HOW TO KNOW WHEN YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING
The issue of partners cheating in marriages or relationships is no longer a news. This ugly trend has lasted for such a long time that it has gradually becomes something the society can’t help but painfully learn to accommodate. I keep on wondering everyday why a married woman or man will not stick to her/his spouse. Why won’t two young fellows who are into a relationship never consider it right to be faithful to one another. Instead they go about jumping from one bed to another, To make matters worse, most people have taken this ugly trend as a life style. While it is traditionally accepted for men to have multiple partners in some societies, it is morally wrong for a man to be unfaithful to his partner. How I wish they can sit down for once and ponder on the multiple emotional implications of their action. Cheating in a marriage or relationship can effect your partner psychologically. According to James Oki “my life has been affected negatively since I found out that my wife is a cheat”. Mr. James is not the only person passing through this traumatic situation. Sadly, the question on the lips of all the people in this condition is ‘why me’. This means they did not know why this fate befall them. This is why I have written this article to expose some of the key reasons why partners cheat and how to know if your partner is cheating. Following are the reasons why cheating is very prevalent in our today's society.
WHY THEY CHEAT
(1) LUST: when couples or dates come together as a result of lust, there is bound to be a problem. When love is not the bond that hold the partners together, the tendency to go out and look for the love that is currently inexistence in their present relationship will always come. My submission is that love has to be the foundation of any relationship that will be void of cheating.
(2) LACK OF COMMITMENT: Commitment in a relationship or marriage plays a very vital role in the sustenance of that relationship. Because most partners do not show total commitment in a marriage, they go outside their home to seek for pleasure. On the other hand, lack of commitment in young peoples relationships can result to one of the partners going out in search of a committed partner. You must wear the coat of commitment if you want your relationship to survive.
(3) LACK OF TRUST: Believe it or not, any relationship without trust hardly works well, be it marriage, business or a date. If your marriage or relationship must work, you must learn to trust your partner with all your heart. Don’t listen to what others are saying about your partner; over look them because you can’t really tell who is your enemy. They may come up with plans to make you cheat on your partner and subsequently destroy your relationship.
(4) UNSATISFIABLE SEXUAL URGE: A partner with huge sexual expectations will always cheat if the current partner is unable to satisfy him/her. This set of people can go to any length to achieve their sexual desire.” When I married my husband, he use to satisfy me sexually. But now that he is always complaining of tiredness, I have to go outside to satisfy myself”. This confession was made by a woman in the court of law. As a matter of fact, she sue for a divorce in other to marry her lover.
(5) PEER PRESURES: Inmaturity and indiscipline often make some people in relationships susceptible to peer pressures. Most people want to do what their peers are doing. This set of people won’t mind cheating if that is what their peers do-they want to belong any how.
(6) MATERIAL WANTS: Cheating in most marriages or relationships arises from the need to have all they want. Some girls believe they can have a good wardrobe and a very fat bank account by keeping multiple relationships. A girl once said that her reason for keeping three relationships was that she needed to get what she couldn’t get from one relationship. Most men also cheat on their wife simply because they other woman will present a link to their success.
(7) IGNORANCE: Knowledge they say is power, this is absolutely correct. You need to have adequate knowledge of the concept of relationship before diving into it, otherwise you will have your fingers and legs burnt. Most people never took time to study what makes up a good relationship, they refused to study while some relationship worked and others failed.
(8) FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: One of the reasons why people cheat in relationships is the fear of the unknown. They are afraid of what the end of their relationship will look like, hence they are forced by their mindset to keep another relationship so that they can fall back on it incase the main relationship fails.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING
I vehemently say here that it is most likely that your partner is cheating on you if he/she
• Gets angry at every slightest provocation.
• Barely call or mail you.
• Keeps unusual late nights.
• Goes to odd places with friends of the opposite sex.
• Intentionally refused to pick your calls or reply your mails.
• Always complain of tiredness when you demand for sex.
• Never complains incase of sex denial.
• Gives flimsy excuses why he/she will not go out with you.
• Unusually request you to call before you visit.
• Always feel uncomfortable when you go on a date.
• Queries you for picking his/her calls.
When you notice this signs, know that your partner is cheating on you.
I am passionately committed to serving you right.
WHY THEY CHEAT
(1) LUST: when couples or dates come together as a result of lust, there is bound to be a problem. When love is not the bond that hold the partners together, the tendency to go out and look for the love that is currently inexistence in their present relationship will always come. My submission is that love has to be the foundation of any relationship that will be void of cheating.
(2) LACK OF COMMITMENT: Commitment in a relationship or marriage plays a very vital role in the sustenance of that relationship. Because most partners do not show total commitment in a marriage, they go outside their home to seek for pleasure. On the other hand, lack of commitment in young peoples relationships can result to one of the partners going out in search of a committed partner. You must wear the coat of commitment if you want your relationship to survive.
(3) LACK OF TRUST: Believe it or not, any relationship without trust hardly works well, be it marriage, business or a date. If your marriage or relationship must work, you must learn to trust your partner with all your heart. Don’t listen to what others are saying about your partner; over look them because you can’t really tell who is your enemy. They may come up with plans to make you cheat on your partner and subsequently destroy your relationship.
(4) UNSATISFIABLE SEXUAL URGE: A partner with huge sexual expectations will always cheat if the current partner is unable to satisfy him/her. This set of people can go to any length to achieve their sexual desire.” When I married my husband, he use to satisfy me sexually. But now that he is always complaining of tiredness, I have to go outside to satisfy myself”. This confession was made by a woman in the court of law. As a matter of fact, she sue for a divorce in other to marry her lover.
(5) PEER PRESURES: Inmaturity and indiscipline often make some people in relationships susceptible to peer pressures. Most people want to do what their peers are doing. This set of people won’t mind cheating if that is what their peers do-they want to belong any how.
(6) MATERIAL WANTS: Cheating in most marriages or relationships arises from the need to have all they want. Some girls believe they can have a good wardrobe and a very fat bank account by keeping multiple relationships. A girl once said that her reason for keeping three relationships was that she needed to get what she couldn’t get from one relationship. Most men also cheat on their wife simply because they other woman will present a link to their success.
(7) IGNORANCE: Knowledge they say is power, this is absolutely correct. You need to have adequate knowledge of the concept of relationship before diving into it, otherwise you will have your fingers and legs burnt. Most people never took time to study what makes up a good relationship, they refused to study while some relationship worked and others failed.
(8) FEAR OF THE UNKNOWN: One of the reasons why people cheat in relationships is the fear of the unknown. They are afraid of what the end of their relationship will look like, hence they are forced by their mindset to keep another relationship so that they can fall back on it incase the main relationship fails.
HOW TO KNOW IF YOUR PARTNER IS CHEATING
I vehemently say here that it is most likely that your partner is cheating on you if he/she
• Gets angry at every slightest provocation.
• Barely call or mail you.
• Keeps unusual late nights.
• Goes to odd places with friends of the opposite sex.
• Intentionally refused to pick your calls or reply your mails.
• Always complain of tiredness when you demand for sex.
• Never complains incase of sex denial.
• Gives flimsy excuses why he/she will not go out with you.
• Unusually request you to call before you visit.
• Always feel uncomfortable when you go on a date.
• Queries you for picking his/her calls.
When you notice this signs, know that your partner is cheating on you.
I am passionately committed to serving you right.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
HANDLING MARRIAGE PROBLEMS
Marriage should not always be like a fairy tale and this is a good thing. Remember that experiencing conflicts and overcoming them can only make your relationship stronger. If you are having your share of marriage problems, do not fret on how much it is. Instead, focus on how you are resolving them. Marriage experts say that what is important in a marriage is how you manage your conflicts, not how much of them you have.
If there is a marriage problem in terms of distance or boredom, here are some steps to bring the spark back. The first thing to keep in mind, however, is that both of you have to exert effort to bring back the honeymoon feeling.
The first tip is to step out of the fairy tale misconception. It s okay to discover that you are not equipped to maintain always that high level of passion or romance that you experienced when you were newlyweds. We are only human. It is possible to have a fairy tale wedding, but a fairy tale marriage? Not likely. It is much better to remove those false expectations and just allow your marriage to grow more maturely.
Next tip to solve distance or boredom marriage problems is to do sweet nothings. Adopt romantic habits. It s paying attention to the little things like how you greet your spouse when you come home, or how you show how much you love each other at the end of the day. When you do these little things, you are able to reconnect with your spouse. The little things matter very much.
Take into consideration your daily conversations. Most of the time, couples forget how to speak to each other. If your conversations are more or less made up of Did you get the groceries? or What s for dinner? or I m going to need the car tomorrow, it s time for a communication makeover.
When you feel a conflict arising, make an effort to state what the problem is clearly first. Most conflicts lead elsewhere when couples have no idea what they are fighting about. This is a common mistake made by spouses. So when you feel the tension rising, make an effort to state clearly and out loud what you are fighting about to help understand and resolve the conflict faster.
A marriage is all about commitment. One big commitment to be made is the promise to maintain and exert effort to maintain closeness in your relationship. Avoiding marriage problems is not always easy, but if both of you are willing, you will definitely achieve that level of closeness you once had as a newlywed couple. Some couples take a second, third, or maybe even a fourth honeymoon to help maintain that level of closeness. You do not have to wait for your anniversary or a special occasion to show each other how much you still love and mean to each other. You can keep the marriage love alive and avoid all these marriage problems by keeping in mind these simple tips, with just some commitment and effort.
If there is a marriage problem in terms of distance or boredom, here are some steps to bring the spark back. The first thing to keep in mind, however, is that both of you have to exert effort to bring back the honeymoon feeling.
The first tip is to step out of the fairy tale misconception. It s okay to discover that you are not equipped to maintain always that high level of passion or romance that you experienced when you were newlyweds. We are only human. It is possible to have a fairy tale wedding, but a fairy tale marriage? Not likely. It is much better to remove those false expectations and just allow your marriage to grow more maturely.
Next tip to solve distance or boredom marriage problems is to do sweet nothings. Adopt romantic habits. It s paying attention to the little things like how you greet your spouse when you come home, or how you show how much you love each other at the end of the day. When you do these little things, you are able to reconnect with your spouse. The little things matter very much.
Take into consideration your daily conversations. Most of the time, couples forget how to speak to each other. If your conversations are more or less made up of Did you get the groceries? or What s for dinner? or I m going to need the car tomorrow, it s time for a communication makeover.
When you feel a conflict arising, make an effort to state what the problem is clearly first. Most conflicts lead elsewhere when couples have no idea what they are fighting about. This is a common mistake made by spouses. So when you feel the tension rising, make an effort to state clearly and out loud what you are fighting about to help understand and resolve the conflict faster.
A marriage is all about commitment. One big commitment to be made is the promise to maintain and exert effort to maintain closeness in your relationship. Avoiding marriage problems is not always easy, but if both of you are willing, you will definitely achieve that level of closeness you once had as a newlywed couple. Some couples take a second, third, or maybe even a fourth honeymoon to help maintain that level of closeness. You do not have to wait for your anniversary or a special occasion to show each other how much you still love and mean to each other. You can keep the marriage love alive and avoid all these marriage problems by keeping in mind these simple tips, with just some commitment and effort.
DIVORCE IS NOT THE SOLUTION TO MARITAL PROBLEMS,TRY COUNCELLING.
Any time you have a problem in your marriage,do not consider the idea of divorcing your spouse.This is true because divorce cannot offer the solution you are looking for. The couple should still remember to try marital counseling as this may still make the relationship improve without engaging in the tedious process of divorce.There are many decisions that must be done if marital counseling is desired by the couple. From the decision of choosing which counselor to hire, to the schedule of the sessions, the couple has to learn to make amends and keep both ends meet. This is one way to start to keep the couple having a healthier discussion without actually fighting over it. As marital counseling can be a tough decision to make, both should still try this risk since this may be their best chance to keep the marriage working. An action about the marriage would be helpful since a problematic marriage may not be able to make it better on its own. Each of the couple should exert a little more effort and try to extend their understanding about each other. Marital counseling can be a good choice for the couple as it poses various benefits for the couple. Aside from the legal factors that may be helpful in keeping a marriage work, there are more decisions that can be better done with the help of a counselor. As this kind of therapist is more detailed and experienced in handling relationship problems, the couple can feel secured that they are on the right track to a better relationship. With marital counseling, it is possible that the couple can set better decisions since someone is professionally guiding them. Also, communication would be more emphasized to help out the couple in their problems. Also, they can have a more organized discussion as one problem can be solved after the other. After all of these, the sessions will be able to lead the couple in a better understanding of their differences in needs and ideas. With it, you can now learn how to handle the situation better from what the counselor has done. Through the guidance of the counselor, the couple can freely express what they are thinking and planning for their marriage. This will be done without the part of being afraid of what the other has to say since both of the couple will have their time to speak and to listen to the other. To keep a marriage entails that both people are willing to do it. If marital counseling can help you out in making the right decisions, it will all be useless if the person is not able to make sure that they will also do their part through the marriage. Everything will still depend on the couple although the marriage counselor can be of help to them in various ways. If the situation is not possible to mend, then at least, you have done your part in trying to keep the relationship and you will be able to think that you have done your best and what is happening is already out of your control.it is only that can save marriage from any form of collapse.
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